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me — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 11:53:56 -0000

I love people that pierce every piece of their face and body , die their hair insane colors, wear clothes out of "Hell Raiser", and tattoo every inch of skin.. and then try to pretend they are "NOT TRYING TO DRAW ATTENTION TO THEMSELVES...!!!".. grow the fuk up dude..

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Brattondanielle — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 00:07:42 -0000

If it is so personal you should get it in a place no one can see. It is not rude to ask about visible tattoos. They are there to get people's attention. If you don't want to be asked about it, don't get it. That's just silly. Who would put something on display across their body for the whole world to see then get in a tiff when someone asks about it?

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atpix — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 19:36:52 -0000

I have a similar personality trait of always being the one to help others and it has cost me dearly over the years, financially and emotionally. I am still working on no longer being everyone's doormat but it is difficult to draw that line and not let others push me over it.

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Web Design — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 09:03:45 -0000

I was very conscious unless I got my first tattoo on upper arm, but once I had it , I felt as if I'm going to be playing lead role in next Hollywood block buster. I even find it interesting when people ask me about the details.

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Parallel Import Cars — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 02:32:02 -0000

Hi Micah,

I understand your concern about privacy. I have friends who tattoo but weirdly, they enjoy people asking them the meaning of the Tattoos. At times they feel really proud of it. I've ever asked them. Don't you get sick and tired of people asking you the meaning of those tattoos, they just replied. I enjoyed it. If I don't want people to ask me, then I should probably tattoo them on my butt so nobody get's to see it.

When the visual stops, the question stops too.

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Melissa — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 00:03:54 -0000

Thank you for the etiquette lesson. I didn't know that if someone has a tattoo displayed openly I am not supposed to ask about it. I have probably done this, thinking I was just showing interest in the person and making conversation. I'll do better from now on.

I also wanted to thank you, Micah, for being the friend that women can talk to. It sounds like they were doing a little too much of that. But really, we appreciate that. You're a valuable asset, we need nice guys to remind us that they exist. But I agree you should not have been taken advantage of.

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Micah Baldwin — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 15:29:15 -0000

Thanks. Openness is one of the two rules I really live by. Thanks
again for the nice comment.

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miamism — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 14:27:40 -0000

Just found your blog through Mark Davidson on Twitter - I commend you for your openness - definitely refreshing to read a blog post that goes in depth.

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Micah Baldwin — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 13:38:29 -0000

Im a little disappointed that the comments have centered around "tattoo etiquette" (never tats - bleh), which 1) doesnt exist; and 2) basically are just common sense and respect for persona space. What this post is about is the reality that people take kindness and assume a nefarious intent. That people see kindness as something that is used as a manipulation and always has strings attached.

I guess the lack of discussion around that concept means that folks either agree with the premise, or 2) are embarrassed in its truth. Fuck the tattoos, they are unimportant.

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lksugarman — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 12:38:09 -0000

I am one of those guilty of asking what that text translated to, although I didn't touch. I don't like being touched by random people either. I really hate being poked by people who use that to emphasize their conversations! But, like many, I thought that if the tattoo's out there, it's okay to ask and that the "public" display was to invite conversation. Otherwise, I thought it would be somewhere normally clothed. So, my apology for my gaff in tatt etiquette, but I just didn't know or realize that this is an invasion of personal space, like being physically touched.

Quite different from the guy who insisted, "I have your name on my penis" and wanted to bet $50. And, in fact, showed me, in a bar in Nashvile next to the original Grand Ol' Opry that he *did* have "Your Name" tattoed on his penis with "Happy Birthday" on the other side!

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Micah Baldwin — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 23:56:30 -0000

Very true. But it happens more than you would imagine. Or the constant
staring. Bleh.

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andrew_feinberg — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 23:47:06 -0000

Grabbing your arm is just a bad idea in general ;-)

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Micah Baldwin — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 23:35:15 -0000

Andrew, I quite agree. The piece missing is the simple request of "do
you mind if I ask you about your tattoos?"

Sometimes I am not in the mood or busy, or perhaps the tattoo is too
personal.

Asking first implies respect. Grabbing my arm or requesting a
translation immediately shows a serious lack thereof.

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andrew_feinberg — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 22:47:15 -0000

I asked when I first met you because it was so unusual, unique, and my hebrew is awful so I couldn't read it myself.

People ask because when so visible and unique, tattoos are often seen as a public statement. A name is easily understood. Symbols are...simple. I see a co-worker with the Black Flag bars and I know he's into 80's hardcore.

But a gigantic tattoo in a foreign language on one's forearm is a statement, and I would take each opportunity to explain as an opportunity to do what you just did, and teach someone something knew.

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Stu Andrews — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 21:49:57 -0000

Micah,

Very excellent post.

I hope that some of the relationships thrown to the might of the sword may have been reborn, as the other person got their act together.

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MadKata — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 20:18:26 -0000

Thanks for this post about boundaries... and the extent we need to serve ourselves as well as do service for others and learn not to be taken advantage of. (I can so relate!) "Portions for foxes" will never mean anything else again.

(And thanks for the heads up re: tattoo etiquette... I just thought if it was there to be read, it was all for public consumption -- DUH -- now I know. :)

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Micah Baldwin — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 22:29:08 -0000

I have never understood why people feel like they can ask, grab,
touch, etc. Just because I have tattoos. Most of them are lucky I
don't punch them.

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jeffrey — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 22:17:12 -0000

I totally agree with this. Sometimes when strangers come up to me and ask me about my tattoos I want to let them know how rude/annoying it is. When I'm in a decent mood, I certainly have the super-abridged version of what my tattoos mean. I do tend to mess with people when they ask about the Japanese, because like you mentioned - it's personal. I usually tell people it means "I am awesome" or "it means that if i wanted you to understand it, i'd have gotten english tattooed on me" The rest of it - I'll tell people if I know them, but otherwise i'll ask someone to tell me something really intense and awful that happened to them in trade for an explanation of my work.